It is very easy to make people dislike you. Whether you’re just meeting them for the first time or you’ve known them for years.
Below are some of the most common turn offs of people (backed by research).
- Sharing too many photos on Facebook
You might be eager to share snapshots of your honeymoon, cousin’s graduation, and dog dressed in a Halloween costume, all within a 24-hour period.
But research has found that posting too many photos on Facebook can hurt your real-life relationships. Specifically, friends don’t like it when you’ve got too many photos of family, and relatives don’t like it when you’ve got too many photos of friends.
- Having too many or too few Facebook friends
In one study, researchers asked college students to look at fictional Facebook profiles and decide how much they liked the profiles’ owners. The study took place in 2008, and the students had about 300 friends each.
Results showed that the “sweet spot” for likability was about 300 friends. Likability ratings were lowest when a profile owner had only about 100 friends, and almost as low when they had more than 300 friends.
Interestingly, the study also found that participants weren’t consciously aware that they liked people less when they had too many or too few Facebook friends.
- Disclosing something extremely personal early on in a relationship
In general, people like each other more after they’ve traded confidences. In fact, self-disclosure is one of the best ways to make friends as an adult.
But psychologists say that disclosing something too intimate — say, the fact that your sister is having an extramarital affair — while you’re still getting to know someone can make you seem insecure and decrease your likability.
- Asking someone questions without talking about yourself at all
A study by Susan Sprecher found an important caveat to the idea that self-disclosure predicts closeness: It has to be mutual. People generally like you less if you don’t reciprocate when they disclose something intimate.
In the study, unacquainted participants either engaged in back-and-forth self-disclosure or took turns self-disclosing for 12 minutes each while the other listened.
Results showed that participants in the back-and-forth group liked each other significantly more.
- Posting a close-up profile photo
If your LinkedIn profile features an image of your face practically smushed up against the camera, you’d be wise to change it.
Research suggests that faces photographed from just 45 centimeters — about 1.5 feet — away are considered less trustworthy, attractive, and competent than faces photographed from 135 centimeters, about 4.5 feet, away.
- Hiding your emotions
Research suggests that letting your real feelings come through is a better strategy for getting people to like you than bottling it all up.
- Acting too nice
You might think you’ll win people over by acting altruistic, but science suggests otherwise.
The real-world implication here is that you don’t want to be the coworker who always agrees to get pizza for the meeting or fix the printer when it’s jammed. Instead, it’s OK to say no sometimes, as long as you explain why you can’t commit.
To impress friends and potential employers, avoid complimenting yourself and trying to disguise it as self-criticism.
This behavior, otherwise known as “humblebragging,” could be a turn-off, according to a recent study.
- Getting too nervous
Never let ’em see — or smell — you sweat. Research suggests that the odor of your nervous sweat may subconsciously influence people’s judgments of your personality.
If you’re prone to nervous sweating, be liberal with the deodorant.
There you have it. Do you agree with this list or have something to add?
Adapted from Business Insider.