At a recent talk at the 92Y in New York, Harvard Business School professor Amy Cuddy fielded a question from a mom who wanted to help her shy daughter succeed in college admissions interviews. Cuddy, who is a social psychologist and the author of new book “Presence,” gave one key piece of advice: Slow down and take pauses.
This strategy has two results: one, you’ll seem more powerful, and two, you’ll show that you’re giving the interaction the attention it requires. These traits are key components of what Cuddy calls “presence,” or being attuned to and able to express your full potential.
Cuddy said many people fear pauses because “we feel threatened, and if there’s a pause, it’s like there’s a hole and an opportunity for someone to get in there and take you down.”
She added: “What I see happening with particularly shy people in interviews is that they really rush through their answers. They’re afraid to ask questions. They certainly don’t pause. They truncate their answers.” Read more