Men do not go into a relationship with the intention of cheating on their partners. Some men would really like to stick to their partners but some triggers can make them go overboard and decide to take that route.
Most men don’t cheat because they don’t love you anymore. In some instances, they cheat because they want more variety in their sex lives.
Some complain of being bored. Others want to be adored by their partners. They want to assert their freedom. They are tired of disappointing you.
They want a partner who places them at the center of their life, and when they no longer feel like the priority in yours, that is when they take the option of cheating.
Sometimes it’s because you are speaking different love languages. But for whatever reason, men do have an innate need to feel respected and appreciated by their partners.
It is most disconcerting for a man to realize he has disappointed his partner in some way because he wants to be her hero.
If you think your man has been cheating on you and you believe he should not be, then these are 10 ways you can do to prevent him from cheating.
1. Be willing to initiate sex
If your man has been the only one initiating sex all the time, you will do well to take up that role from time to time. Men equate sex with desirability and when you take the step, he will feel that he is desired. Help him to get this feeling by expressing your love in a physical way.
2. Be open to experimentation
It can be easy to get comfortable and fear of the unknown can stop you from being open to different sexual experiences and exploring different positions to tickle his fancy.
Allow your man to try new things with you. If you won’t, there will be someone else who will. This is not saying you should agree to engage in sexual activity you find repulsive but allow yourself to experience new things with the man you love.
3. Don’t over accommodate
Sometimes in a relationship, a woman can become too comfortable and become more accommodating.
Men get into relationships with a very clear picture of what a lifetime partner looks like and this is often in stark contrast to whom he may have dated casually.
Women work to become the person their partner wants them to be and in doing so, they lose themselves. One day, the may man realize this is what he asked for but he isn’t sure it’s what he really wants and the urge to experience something outside may arise.
Therefore, try and maintain a healthy sense of self in your relationship.
4. Don’t become too controlling
One thing that really pisses men off is when their women become too controlling. Often, without realizing it, some women want to control the man in a relationship and this, in a way, is a signal for trouble because no man worth his onions would like to be controlled.
Controlling a man is a destructive relationship habit and comes with such things as nagging, incessant complaining, blaming, criticizing, threatening, punishing and bribing or rewarding to control. Try and do away with these traits if you want your man to stay connected to you alone.
5. Make sure he knows how much you appreciate him
Sometimes when women get the guy and get married, they begin to get a false sense of security. Remember, all relationships are voluntary.
A person can leave at any time. With an over 50% divorce rate in this country, we need to remember how important it is to maintain a positive relationship, not simply to acquire one.
6. Let him have time to himself
Some guys do like some time-out for themselves and their boys. They want to hang out and watch the premiership, talk about politics and generally bond with one another. However, some women find this nauseating and will go to any length to stop them from having that all-boys time out.
Some men cheat because they begin to feel hemmed in by the relationship. Engaging in an affair can provide them the sense of freedom they lose in a relationship. Allow your man time for himself without you.
Don’t try to monopolize all your guy’s time. Be open to time apart for him to spend with friends, pursue hobbies, etc. so he does not feel he has no freedom.
7. Be aware of your emotions
Whether or not you are aware of it, women are masters at using their emotions to communicate volumes without speaking any words. They communicate anger, rage, sadness, and disappointment that is received by their partners.
Instead of taking that as a cue to do something different, some men begin to look for another partner who idolizes them the way you used to. Don’t forget, your man wants to know he lights you up and not that he is constantly disappointing you.
8. Prioritize your relationship
Often, when a man cheats, you will find the woman is also having an ‘affair’ that may not necessarily be sexual. It’s more socially appropriate.
This ‘affair’ takes the form of prioritizing something, anything, over the relationship. This could be a job, children, parents, job, friends, fashion, etc, and just about anything that puts her man lower on her totem pole than the first position.
Prioritize your relationship over everything else. This is the relationship you want to last for all your life. Other things will fade away and the relationship will still be there if you tend to it carefully.
9. Find his relationship pattern
Some men simply believe it is hard-wired into their genes to have sexual relations with as many women as they can. If this is your man, it probably won’t matter what you do. Try to recognize these men early on by asking about their dating history.
10. Don’t joke with sex
Some men are wired to think about sex 80% of the time and they come up with different ways of getting in the shag and if you are not there to satisfy him, chances are that another woman would.
Remember the saying that a contented man is a satisfied man. This goes to show that if you give him the sex he wants and make him fully satisfied, chances are that he may not stray.